The Splash of Wisdom

Have you ever found yourself in a friendship that felt a bit off, but you weren’t quite sure why? Or perhaps someone once told you, “Dude, you need boundaries,” but you shrugged it off thinking, “We’re just friends—boundaries aren’t necessary.” I used to think the same way. It turns out, though, that healthy boundaries are crucial for any friendship, including the ones we have with female friends. I’ve learned a lot about boundaries the hard way—through late-night conversations that got too personal, mixed signals that led to awkward confrontations, and emotional entanglements that left both parties confused. Not to mention, I’ve done my fair share of reading on psychology and relationships, which consistently underscores the importance of knowing where healthy limits begin and end. So, in this post, I want to walk you through seven boundaries every man should consider setting with his female friends, based on psychological insights and personal experience. Ready? Let’s dive in. 1. Be ...

A pregnant woman asks her husband: "What are you expecting, a boy or a girl?" ” The husband replies: "If it's a boy, I'll teach him math, we'll work out together, teach him how to fish, etc." ” The woman, laughing, asks: "What if it's a girl?" ” The husband smiles and says, "If it's a girl, I won't have to teach her anything." She will teach me everything: how to dress, how to eat, what to say and what not to say. Very soon, she'll become like a second mom to me, and even without doing anything special, she'll always consider me as her hero. She'll understand when I tell her no and she'll still compare her future husband to me. No matter how old she gets, she will always want me to treat her like my little princess. She'll fight for me against the world, and if anyone hurts me, she'll never forgive them. ” The woman, a little intrigued, asks: "You mean your daughter would do all thi...

Leading creative people is like herding cats. They sometimes appear to be all over the place, to be mischievous, off in their own worlds, extremely curious and can be a tad hard to manage at times. But your business needs them, and they need you, and when you get to understand and know creative people, gain their confidence and respect, then extraordinary things happen. Unfortunately, most leaders don’t take the time to understand that creative people work, behave and think differently and that in order to utilize their genius you need to provide them with a stimulating and conducive environment. So…here’s 5 mistakes that businesses make which will ensure their creative people will hate working for them. Segregate them. Creative people love hanging out with other creative people. It’s stimulating them, allows them to bounce ideas around, gives them a sense of camaraderie. So, whatever you do, make sure your creative people get to network and hangout with others (within and without your...

There’s a unique kind of pain in a goodbye that’s never spoken. It’s not the parting itself that lingers but the silence that follows—the questions left unanswered; the moments unresolved. These farewells, steeped in ambiguity, leave us suspended in a haze of emotions, caught between what was and what could have been. The absence of explanation becomes its own ache, an invisible weight that follows us. Yet within this discomfort lies an invitation; not just to grieve but to grow. Life rarely gives us the closure we crave. The human heart longs for certainty, for neat conclusions that allow us to move forward without hesitation. We seek reasons, hoping that clarity will somehow ease the pain. But when someone leaves without explanation, the narrative is left open-ended, and the mind races to fill the void. We replay conversations, reexamine memories, and question ourselves endlessly. Was it something we said or didn’t say? Was it avoidable? Could things have been different? ...

After Retirement? Having a peaceful meal with a calm mind, if God has given enough money for it, why should a person keep running after money even after the age of 60-65? "Sol Gordon and Harold Brecher" wrote a book titled... "Life Is Uncertain... Eat Your Dessert First!!!" "Life is uncertain, so eat dessert first" – dessert symbolizes your favorite activities or the things you love most in life. Life is indeed uncertain. This truth is even more significant for retired individuals. Running behind accumulating wealth, chasing status and prestige—all these are fitting pursuits during youth. However, after 60 or 70, our focus should only be on our true priorities. Last week, during a senior citizen gathering, I posed a question: "How many of you are still fully engaged in jobs or businesses?" Out of around 300 attendees, 27 hands were raised. Then I asked a follow-up question: "Out of those 27, how many are working purely out of financial neces...

In 1978, a neurologist named Dr. James Austin published a book entitled Chase, Chance, & Creativity: The Lucky Art of Novelty. In it, he proposed that there are 4 types of luck: (1) Blind Luck (2) Luck from Motion (3) Luck from Awareness (4) Luck from Uniqueness Here's what they are: Type 1: Blind Luck

Lessons from Advertising Career Towards the end of my 19th year in this world, I found myself trying to sell the most awful copy test (a set of lateral thinking problems agencies used to test a person’s ability to approach advertising briefs) to Johannesburg’s advertising industry. Of course, I thought I was a genius and I couldn’t understand why nobody was clambering to hire me. That’s when I learned my first lesson: 1: You’re not as good as you sometimes think you are. Imagine that. I was learning, and I hadn’t even got in yet. A very kind headhunter took pity on me and tried to find me a gig. I held on to a belief deep inside me, that I did have what it takes, but I just needed the right environment to prove myself. Of course, I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was right.  Talent is nothing without the right environment - the right coaching and the right inspiration.   Because you know - 2: Success never happens in a vacuum. Lesson 2, done and dusted and I haven’t even ...