The Splash of Wisdom

If you are interested in reading this, then you are very likely someone who is trying to not call, text, e-mail, or even contact via Facebook a person that you: - Have broken up with, or has broken up with you - Have determined is abusive - Are highly attracted to, but is not returning your level of interest (for whatever reason) - Have an unhealthy connection or relationship with - Is presently in your life, but you're trying to not act needy with. Through this work, deep feelings might emerge or become triggered while you work on detaching from the person with whom you are having an unhealthy relationship. You will learn new behaviors, ideas, and concepts to use as tools to help support you in your process. The whole point of resisting the urge to call, text, or e-mail is to: Avoid the risk of getting rejected, hurt, and humiliated Give them a chance to feel the loss of you Not put yourself in a position of pursuing someone who doesn't return your level of interest Detach fr...

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A policeman was heading home after a long, hard day on patrol. He had dealt with a whole succession of difficult people, and a mountain of frustrating paperwork. All he wanted at this point was to kick back, unwind, enjoy some peace and quiet, and maybe watch a few innings of baseball on TV. But, as he neared home, he was startled by a vehicle that came careening around a sharp curve and narrowly missed his squad car. As the car passed within a few inches of him, the other driver shouted “Pig!” The police officer was suddenly energized. He slammed on brakes, all set to turn his squad car around and head off in hot pursuit. But as he rounded the curve, … he ran head-on into a large pig that was standing in the middle of the road! It’s a lesson we learn early in life if we’re lucky: don’t assume! No matter how confident we are in our understanding of the issue. No matter how certain of another’s reasoning or motives. No matter how obvious the point may be to us. Effective communication i...

It is a common sight in India to see mothers and grandmothers handing out ajwain seeds to family members who have an upset stomach. Carom seeds or bishop's weed also known as ajwain is a common herb found in Indian households and is well known for properties that make it one of the most used home remedies. But other than being a good digestive aid, it has a number of other health benefits. Here are some of them:  1. Beat indigestion and flatulence: Ajwain is packed with tahymol. In fact it's the only plant in the world with the highest amount of thymol. This chemical is very effective in helping the stomach release gastric juices that speed up digestion. It is known to help in cases of indigestion, flatulence, nausea and relieve colicky pain in babies. Tip: Boil a teaspoon of the seeds in a cup of water till it is reduced to half, strain and drink this water for instant relief. Another good remedy for nausea is to take a teaspoonful of the seed and wrap it in a beetle leaf. Pla...

Life positions are basic beliefs about self and others, which are used to justify decisions and behaviour.  Berne in his Book  “I’m OK, you’re OK,”  says the ideal life position to attain is that which puts you in a position to satisfy your needs while being happy that others are able to satisfy their needs. So for all the naysayers of win-win out there who have not bought into Nash and his win-win thinking, pause for a minute and explore Berne and his “I’m OK, you’re OK” mind-set.  Very early experiences of the infant play a deciding role in the establishing  of that person's life position.  Once it is decided upon, a person's life position influences how she thinks, feels,  acts, and relates with others. There are four basic life positions: Position 1. I am OK -- You're OK. Position 2. I'm OK -- You're not-OK. Position 3. I'm not-OK -- You're OK. Position 4. I'm not-OK -- You're not-OK. Eric Berne in his book, “What Do You Say After You Say Hello”,...

Once in Persia reigned a king, Who upon his signet ring Graved a maxim true and wise, Which, if held before his eyes, Gave him counsel at a glance Fit for every change and chance. Solemn words, and these are they, “Even this shall pass away.” Trains of camels through the sand Brought him gems from Samarcand; Fleets of galleys through the seas Brought him pearls to match with these; But he counted not his gain Treasures of the mine or main; “What is wealth?” the king would say; “Even this shall pass away.” ‘Mid the revels of his court, At the zenith of his sport, When the palms of all his guests Burned with clapping at his jests, He, amid his figs and wine, Cried, “O loving friends of mine; Pleasures come, but not to stay, ‘Even this shall pass away. Lady, fairest ever seen, Was the bride he crowned his queen. Pillowed on his marriage bed, Softly to his soul he said: “Though no bridegroom ever pressed Fairer bosom to his breast, Mortal flesh must come to clay Even this shall pass away.”...

Reduce wrinkles with seafood  According to researchers at Michigan State University, the key to keeping your skin healthy is to eat six ounces of fish three times weekly. It’ll actually cut wrinkling and sagging by 30 percent. “Fish is packed with protein, minerals and omega-3 fats -- nutrients that nourish the collagen and muscles that keep skin smooth,” says dermatologist Nicholas Perricone, M.D. “My favorite is salmon, because it’s also rich in astaxanthin -- an antioxidant that reduces fine lines and wrinkling.” Fight fatigue with green tea “I keep a pot of green tea on my desk and sip it all day long,” says Vincent Giampapa, M.D., a plastic surgeon in New Jersey. “It keeps me energized and focused, yet it doesn’t give me jitters the way a pot of coffee would!” Green tea has compounds that help your brain use blood sugar for fuel and stimulate the production of energizing hormones called endorphins, say researchers at the University of California, Davis. Heal injuries with musi...