The Splash of Wisdom

Have you ever found yourself in a friendship that felt a bit off, but you weren’t quite sure why? Or perhaps someone once told you, “Dude, you need boundaries,” but you shrugged it off thinking, “We’re just friends—boundaries aren’t necessary.” I used to think the same way. It turns out, though, that healthy boundaries are crucial for any friendship, including the ones we have with female friends. I’ve learned a lot about boundaries the hard way—through late-night conversations that got too personal, mixed signals that led to awkward confrontations, and emotional entanglements that left both parties confused. Not to mention, I’ve done my fair share of reading on psychology and relationships, which consistently underscores the importance of knowing where healthy limits begin and end. So, in this post, I want to walk you through seven boundaries every man should consider setting with his female friends, based on psychological insights and personal experience. Ready? Let’s dive in. 1. Be ...

A pregnant woman asks her husband: "What are you expecting, a boy or a girl?" ” The husband replies: "If it's a boy, I'll teach him math, we'll work out together, teach him how to fish, etc." ” The woman, laughing, asks: "What if it's a girl?" ” The husband smiles and says, "If it's a girl, I won't have to teach her anything." She will teach me everything: how to dress, how to eat, what to say and what not to say. Very soon, she'll become like a second mom to me, and even without doing anything special, she'll always consider me as her hero. She'll understand when I tell her no and she'll still compare her future husband to me. No matter how old she gets, she will always want me to treat her like my little princess. She'll fight for me against the world, and if anyone hurts me, she'll never forgive them. ” The woman, a little intrigued, asks: "You mean your daughter would do all thi...

After Retirement? Having a peaceful meal with a calm mind, if God has given enough money for it, why should a person keep running after money even after the age of 60-65? "Sol Gordon and Harold Brecher" wrote a book titled... "Life Is Uncertain... Eat Your Dessert First!!!" "Life is uncertain, so eat dessert first" – dessert symbolizes your favorite activities or the things you love most in life. Life is indeed uncertain. This truth is even more significant for retired individuals. Running behind accumulating wealth, chasing status and prestige—all these are fitting pursuits during youth. However, after 60 or 70, our focus should only be on our true priorities. Last week, during a senior citizen gathering, I posed a question: "How many of you are still fully engaged in jobs or businesses?" Out of around 300 attendees, 27 hands were raised. Then I asked a follow-up question: "Out of those 27, how many are working purely out of financial neces...

What Causes Infertility? Why has infertility become so widespread now, whereas it wasn’t as common 40 years ago? Is this due to diseases among people or something bigger, like a conspiracy? The 2005 Cotton Conference in Gujarat In 2005, a conference on Integrated Cotton Cultivation was held in Gujarat. Dr. Swaminathan’s institution partnered with the Gujarat government to launch BT Cotton (genetically modified cotton). The unique trait of BT Cotton: Its leaves contained a genetic modification that prevented pests from reproducing after consuming it. In essence, it spread infertility among pests. The Impact of BT Cotton on Society Farmers saw initial benefits, such as increased cotton production and reduced crop diseases. However, cottonseed oil, extracted from BT Cotton, entered the food chain and became widely consumed in Gujarat and across India. Concerns Raised During the conference, a warning was issued about the potential effects of genetically modified BT Cotton on humans...

For women who get hitched in their 20s, divorcing in the first couple of years has become a common pattern now, and most of them go through this horrifying phase even before hitting 30. While the factors behind every relationship’s downfall are different, the underlying impetus behind  marriage is similar for some of the women. For women, who maintain a comfortable long-term relationship in their 20s, the next logical step is to get hitched, mainly because they find it convenient. Madison, a 29 year-old accountant from New Jersey admitted to marrying even though she didn’t feel ‘crazy love’, because was ‘content and secure instead’, Huffington Post quoted her as telling. Many times it is a previous relationship, which leaves a woman heartbroken and propels them to marry ‘Mr Wrong'. They say you never really get over your first love. “I didn''t think I would ever fall in love again so I figured it didn’t matter who I married,” said Tara, a 26 year-old freelance writer from N...

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.    FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, 'I don't feel like it,I just want you to hold me.' I said, 'WHAT??!! What was that?!' So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear... 'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enoughfor me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.'   She responded to my puzzled look by saying, 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?'   Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.    The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her.We went out to a nice lunch and t...

A husband wakes up at home with a huge hangover. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table. He sits down and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed. He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotless, clean. So is the rest of the house. He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table. "Honey, breakfast is on the table, I left early to go grocery shopping. Love You!" Totally shocked with the note , he goes to the kitchen and sure enough there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper. His son is also at the table, eating. He asks, "Son, what happened last night?" His son says, "Well, you came home around 3 AM, drunk and delirious. Broke some crockery, puked in the hall, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door". Confused, the man asks, "So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on...

Your heart beats faster when you hear their name. Your body melts when you are in their arms  They are the only one that you want to be with  No one else is even worth looking at  You would walk 3 miles in the snow just to see them  You will do everything in your power to make them happy When someone asks for your number, you say "you can call my boy/girl friend and get it from them  When every romantic thing makes you think of them  When you cry when you won't see each other for a while  You go to sleep thinking about them You wake up thinking about them You want to spend every moment with them You don't mind if all they want to do is cuddle Silence doesn't bother you They are not only your lover, but also your best friend You can tell them anything You can go to the movies and actually WATCH the movie They are always there for you They are there when times are rough When you say, "I LOVE YOU" and mean i Courtesy: facebookquotes4u.com

I am sure married men will agree with what is mentioned below: The wife says: You want The wife means: You want The wife says: We need The wife means: I want The wife says: It's your decision The wife means: The correct decision should be obvious The wife says: Do what you want The wife means: You'll pay for this later The wife says: We need to talk The wife means: I need to complain The wife says: Sure… go ahead The wife means: I don't want you to The wife says: I'n not upset The wife means: Of course I'm upset you moron The wife says: You're … so manly The wife means: She has some physical job for you The wife says: Be romantic, turn out the lights The wife means: She surely has seen an inspiring movie. The wife says: This kitchen is so inconvenient The wife means: I want a new house. The wife says: I want new curtains. The wife means: Also carpeting, furniture, and wallpaper! The wife says: I need wedding shoes. The wife means: The other forty pairs...

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, watching his  wife, who was looking at herself in the mirror. Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her birthday. 'I'd like to be eight again', she replied, still looking in the mirror. On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of Coco Pops, and then took her to Adventure World theme park. What a day! He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Wall of Fear, the Screaming Roller Coaster, everything there was. Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park. Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down. He then took her to a McDonald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake.  Then it was off to a movie, popcorn, a soda pop, and her favorite candy, M&M's. What a fabulous adventure! Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhaust...

Whether you’re building a business, a network, or friendships, you always want to look for people who are genuine. After all, nobody wants to work or hang out with a phony. On the flipside, that goes for you, as well. Bet you never considered that.  Image credit: Eli DeFaria | StockSnap.io In case you're wondering, genuine means actual, real, sincere, honest. Genuine people are more or less the same on the inside as their behavior is on the outside. Unfortunately, it's a tough quality to discern. The problem is that all human interactions are relative. They’re all a function of how we perceive each other through our own subjective lenses.  Being genuine is also a rare quality. In a world full of phony fads, media hype, virtual personas, positive thinkers, and personal brands – where everyone wants what they don’t have, nobody’s content to be who they are, and, more importantly, nobody’s willing to admit to any of that – it’s becoming more and more rare all the time.   To ...

It is better to be alone than in bad company. A big part of who you become in life has to do with who you choose to surround yourself with.  Sometimes luck controls who walks into your life, but you decide who you let stay, who you pursue, and who you let walk back out. Ultimately, you should surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don’t.  Here are some warning signs you’re in the presence of the latter: 1.  They only make time for you when it’s convenient for them. It’s obvious, but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially when there’s a lack of commitment. Don’t waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them.  You shouldn’t have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will gladly create space for you. Being in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth isn’t l...

I f you are at your wit's end because your spouse leaves the bathroom in chaos, never cleans out the bathtub or shower, lets things slide, throws clothes on the floor, conveniently forgets to take out the trash, doesn't follow through with promises to do household chores, ignores reasonable requests to pick things up, refuses to quit smoking or lose weight, watches too much television, is on the computer a tremendous amount of time, and on, and on, and on... you may find yourself nagging or being demanding. Face it. Nagging doesn't work!! The Vicious Cycle of Nagging Nagging can become a vicious cycle. The more you nag, the more your mate avoids you or withdraws both emotionally and physically from you, so the more you nag. Is this really how you want to live? Why Nagging Doesn't Work • Even though your gripes may be valid, nagging makes your spouse resentful. • Nagging makes your spouse defensive. • Nagging puts you in the parent role, and your spouse in the ch...