The Splash of Wisdom

Have you ever found yourself in a friendship that felt a bit off, but you weren’t quite sure why? Or perhaps someone once told you, “Dude, you need boundaries,” but you shrugged it off thinking, “We’re just friends—boundaries aren’t necessary.” I used to think the same way. It turns out, though, that healthy boundaries are crucial for any friendship, including the ones we have with female friends. I’ve learned a lot about boundaries the hard way—through late-night conversations that got too personal, mixed signals that led to awkward confrontations, and emotional entanglements that left both parties confused. Not to mention, I’ve done my fair share of reading on psychology and relationships, which consistently underscores the importance of knowing where healthy limits begin and end. So, in this post, I want to walk you through seven boundaries every man should consider setting with his female friends, based on psychological insights and personal experience. Ready? Let’s dive in. 1. Be ...

A pregnant woman asks her husband: "What are you expecting, a boy or a girl?" ” The husband replies: "If it's a boy, I'll teach him math, we'll work out together, teach him how to fish, etc." ” The woman, laughing, asks: "What if it's a girl?" ” The husband smiles and says, "If it's a girl, I won't have to teach her anything." She will teach me everything: how to dress, how to eat, what to say and what not to say. Very soon, she'll become like a second mom to me, and even without doing anything special, she'll always consider me as her hero. She'll understand when I tell her no and she'll still compare her future husband to me. No matter how old she gets, she will always want me to treat her like my little princess. She'll fight for me against the world, and if anyone hurts me, she'll never forgive them. ” The woman, a little intrigued, asks: "You mean your daughter would do all thi...

What Causes Infertility? Why has infertility become so widespread now, whereas it wasn’t as common 40 years ago? Is this due to diseases among people or something bigger, like a conspiracy? The 2005 Cotton Conference in Gujarat In 2005, a conference on Integrated Cotton Cultivation was held in Gujarat. Dr. Swaminathan’s institution partnered with the Gujarat government to launch BT Cotton (genetically modified cotton). The unique trait of BT Cotton: Its leaves contained a genetic modification that prevented pests from reproducing after consuming it. In essence, it spread infertility among pests. The Impact of BT Cotton on Society Farmers saw initial benefits, such as increased cotton production and reduced crop diseases. However, cottonseed oil, extracted from BT Cotton, entered the food chain and became widely consumed in Gujarat and across India. Concerns Raised During the conference, a warning was issued about the potential effects of genetically modified BT Cotton on humans...

  My brain and heart divorced a decade ago over who was to blame about how big of a mess. I have become eventually, they couldn't be in the same room with each other now my head and heart share custody of me. I stay with my brain during the week and my heart gets me on weekends they never speak to one another. Instead, they give me the same note to pass to each other every week and their notes they send to one another always says the same thing: "This is all your fault" On Sundays my heart complains about how my head has let me down in the past and on Wednesday my head lists all of the times my heart has screwed things up for me in the future they blame each other for the state of my life there's been a lot of yelling - and crying So, lately, I've been spending a lot of time with my gut who serves as my unofficial therapist. Most nights, I sneak out of the window in my ribcage and slide down my spine and collapse on my gut's plush leather chair that's ...

A father said to his daughter: You graduated with honors, here is a car that I acquired many years ago ... it is several years old. But before I give it to you, take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you.  The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said, "They offered me $1,000 because it looks very worn out." The father said, "Take him to the pawn shop." The daughter went to the pawn shop, returned to her father and said, "The pawn shop offered $100 because it was a very old car." The father asked his daughter to go to a car club and show them the car.  The daughter took the car to the club, returned and told her father, “Some people in the club offered $100,000 for it since it is a Nissan Skyline R34, an iconic car and sought after by many." The father said to his daughter, "I wanted you to know that the right place values ​​you the right way." If you are not ...

Stephen Covey's Habits of Independence: Habit 1: Be Proactive Worrying endlessly about things outside of your circle of influence isn't particularly productive. Working within your circle of influence is productive. Further, the more effective you become, the more your circle of influence will expand. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Before a performance, a sales presentation, a difficult confrontation, or the daily challenge of meeting a goal, see it clearly, vividly, relentlessly, over and over again. Create an internal "comfort zone." Then, when you get into the situation, it isn't foreign. It doesn't scare you." Habit 3: Put First Things First The key to putting first things first is to understand that you have many things you can do which will have a significant, positive impact on your life. But, you probably don't do them, because they aren't urgent. They can be delayed. Of course, so will your success. So "Organize and execute arou...

You've not felt pain Till you've let yourself feel. You must let the pain in Before you can heal. Let it crumble you, crush you, Destroy your soul. Piece by piece, Till it consumes you whole. 'I've faced pain', you think. But what you've really done, Is block it out with numbness. And you think that you've won. Then it happens again. And you think that you know How to win this once more, Since you've done it before. So you pull out your shield, And stay safe behind. You hide in the cave that the pain cannot find. Running the other way is easier than to face it. But to truly find peace You have to embrace it. You'll feel it break your bones And crush your thin skull. Till all that is left of you Is a withered empty hull. You'll wonder how you fell For pain and its tricks. But as you walk away broken You'll see yourself fix. You'll be glad you welcomed it And drew down your shield. This time you didn't switch off; This time you healed. ...

As I sat in the park after my morning walk, My wife came and slumped next to me. She had completed her 30-minute jog. We chatted for a while. She said she is not happy in life. I looked up at her sheer disbelief since she seemed to have the best of everything in life. "Why do you think so?" "I don't know. Everyone tells I have everything needed, but I am not happy. "Then I questioned myself, am I happy?  "No," was my inner voice reply. Now, that was an eye-opener for me. I began my quest to understand the real cause of my unhappiness, I couldn't find one. I dug deeper, read articles, spoke to life coaches but nothing made sense.  At last my doctor friend gave me the answer which put all my questions and doubts to rest. I implemented those and will say I am a lot happier person. She said, there are four hormones which determine a human's happiness - 1. Endorphins, 2. Dopamine, 3. Serotonin, and  4. Oxytocin. It is important we understand these h...

COLDS Mix a gram of dalchini/cinnamon powder with a teaspoon of honey to cure cold. Prepare a cup of tea to which you should add ginger, clove, bay leaf and black pepper... This should be consumed twice a day.. Reduce the intake as the cold disappears. GINGER FOR COLDS Ginger tea is very good to cure cold. Preparation of tea: cut ginger into small pieces and boil it with water, boil it a few times and then add sugar to sweeten and milk to taste, and drink it hot. DRY COUGHS Add a gram of turmeric (haldi) powder to a teaspoon of honey for curing dry cough. Also chew a cardamom for a long time. BLOCKED NOSE For blocked nose or to relieve congestion, take a table spoon of crushed carom seeds (ajwain) and tie it in a cloth and inhale it. SORE THROAT Add a tea spoon of cumin seeds (jeera) and a few small pieces of dry ginger to a glass of boiling water. Simmer it for a few minutes, and then let it cool. Drink it twice daily. This will cure cold as well as sour throat. AJWAIN/AJMO FOR ASTHMA...

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest, if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer with its twists and turns, As every one of us sometimes learns, And many a failure turns about, When he might have won had he stuck it out; Don't give up though the pace seems slow-- You may succeed with another blow. Often the goal is nearer than, It seems to a faint and faltering man, Often the struggler has given up, When he might have captured the victor's cup, And he learned too late when the night slipped down, How close he was to the golden crown. Success is failure turned inside out-- The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far, So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit-- It's when things seem worst ...

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.    FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, 'I don't feel like it,I just want you to hold me.' I said, 'WHAT??!! What was that?!' So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear... 'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enoughfor me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.'   She responded to my puzzled look by saying, 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?'   Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.    The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her.We went out to a nice lunch and t...

A husband wakes up at home with a huge hangover. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table. He sits down and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed. He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotless, clean. So is the rest of the house. He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table. "Honey, breakfast is on the table, I left early to go grocery shopping. Love You!" Totally shocked with the note , he goes to the kitchen and sure enough there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper. His son is also at the table, eating. He asks, "Son, what happened last night?" His son says, "Well, you came home around 3 AM, drunk and delirious. Broke some crockery, puked in the hall, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door". Confused, the man asks, "So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on...

What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it. This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning. A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal. To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about karmic laws. 1. THE GREAT LAW – “As you sow, so shall you reap”. This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect”. – Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us. – If what we want is Happiness, Peace, Love, Friendship… T...

Translated by Allen Montrasio, teacher @JohnPeterSloan_La Scuola. Talking about excuses I immediately think about the stories children make up not to admit they broke the vase, ate the cake, didn’t do their homework. I remember that when she was small, my sister once ate an entire box of my cousin’s chocolates and gradually made any proof of the misdeed disappear by throwing the wrappers in different wastebaskets, tearing up the box and putting the pieces in the stove, at school and in her wardrobe, where eventually my mother found the last red fragment of cardboard that proved her guilt. Cornered, in the face of the evidence, she confessed that “If you had waited another day, you wouldn’t have even found that…”. Knowing she’d done wrong, she faced the punishment in good spirit. I too have done my little misdeeds, but this isn’t the time to talk about them. Little childish lies, told to avoid the just punishment or reproach that follows a wrong action. Sometimes, creative alternative r...

I am sure married men will agree with what is mentioned below: The wife says: You want The wife means: You want The wife says: We need The wife means: I want The wife says: It's your decision The wife means: The correct decision should be obvious The wife says: Do what you want The wife means: You'll pay for this later The wife says: We need to talk The wife means: I need to complain The wife says: Sure… go ahead The wife means: I don't want you to The wife says: I'n not upset The wife means: Of course I'm upset you moron The wife says: You're … so manly The wife means: She has some physical job for you The wife says: Be romantic, turn out the lights The wife means: She surely has seen an inspiring movie. The wife says: This kitchen is so inconvenient The wife means: I want a new house. The wife says: I want new curtains. The wife means: Also carpeting, furniture, and wallpaper! The wife says: I need wedding shoes. The wife means: The other forty pairs...